It’s quite tragic that we are programmed to believe that others must invest in us. As a child, our parents and as a professional our organisation. Outsourcing the single most critical element of one’s own growth and success seems beyond comprehension.
Devote a moment to think of something you cannot delegate to anyone else. Some examples might be choosing a life partner or deciding what your personal brand will be, from being inspired, to turning over a new chapter, identifying your own leadership style, becoming an entrepreneur or being comfortable in your own skin. What is the best type of conversation to have as you work through these things? What type of conversation is going on inside when you say something like "that's not me"?
We live in a world where almost everything is subject to a process of diagnosis and treatment in one form or another. But these things that can only be done for ourselves resist that framework. There is no expert to analyse and prescribe in this world of our humanity; our identity.
In fact, most of us, including our friends, parents, teachers and mentors don't understand the non-analytical, intuitive, interactive process that we ourselves use to develop these answers. As a result, our normal relationships rarely support that process well. Rather, they tend to gravitate toward inflexible roles such as supporter, cheerleader, advisor, mentor, consultant, healer etc.
As a result, the most critical inner formations are often followed on their own. Despite this, most behavioural scientists believe that humans are designed to collaborate closely with others in a group environment. Relationships also assist us in thinking, developing, and forming our own personalities. When we speak to another person, it seems that some forms of internal thoughts and emotions exist that do not occur while we speak to ourselves.
A professionally qualified coach should be able to provide you with an ability to explain and build your inner path during a conversation - without manipulating anything other than to help you become more aware of it. It turns out that it takes a lot of experience and hard personal effort for any of us to be able to have a conversation like this; free of judgment, prejudices, beliefs, desires, fake sympathy, hard questions, confusion, insecurities, and so on. Instead, it is clearly diligent, responsive, accessible, innovative, hopeful, inquisitive, and brutally truthful.
That is what you are paying for if you ever pay for a life coaching or business coaching. A little time in a timeless place gives you a moment to concentrate on who you are, the way you relate to others, and the importance of everything in between.
Afterall; To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment - Ralph Waldo Emerson.